Energy vampires actually do have a purpose. They help us grow. You may think you attract them so you can learn to protect yourself energetically. I see a lot of people have issues with energy vamps. Most advice is to run or hide. This is not the answer because you will just keep attracting them until you learn the lesson they provide. You will just have encounters with worse energy vampires until you learn the lesson. Energy vamps can drain you until you learn to deal with them effectively. I have encountered plenty, even the king of all energy vamps a narcissist. I learned the lesson and I am no longer bothered by them. Not being easy prey will most of the time send them the other way. The won’t want to waste their energy on you.
The lesson energy vamps provide is you establishing boundaries. If you have firm boundaries they can no longer bother you and they will move on. You teach people how they can and cannot treat you by having boundaries. I basically had no boundaries for 43 years and I had terrible relationships. I always felt taken advantage of and was drained by my feeling this way. I walked around feeling something was wrong with me. There wasn’t anything wrong with me it was the people around me. Since I started establishing boundaries all my relationships have improved. I lost a few but they really needed to go anyways.
Here are a few types and how to deal with them.
The Favor Asker Vamp: This person is always asking you favors. If you do a favor for someone once and they keep asking you for more favors. It is time to nip that in the bud right way by just saying no. After you start saying no it will get easier and easier to say it. These types of people are just using you. They leave the situation with what they want; a favor. You leave the situation feeling; used and drained.
The Feel Sorry For Me Vamp: This person has made an art out of having people feel sorry for them. If you are a kind and compassionate person they know exactly what to say to get your heart bleeding for them. They seem depressed and hopeless but they know exactly what they are doing. They love the attention of being rescued and by rescuing them you are interfering with their life lessons and karma. They have no reason to do anything for themselves if you are doing it for them.
The Constantly Complaining Negative Vamp: This person is constantly negative and complaining bring others down around them into negativity. They can complain or see something negative in even the most positive things. How I deal with this vamp is by pointing out the positive over and over. If this doesn’t help I just say I will talk to you when you are feeling more positive. These people are miserable and just want company when feeling miserable.
The Angry Vamp: This person has a hard time controlling their emotions and are emotionally immature. They are blowing up and causing those around them to walk on eggshells. Just walk away no one has to put up with this behavior. Tell them you will talk to them when they are calm.
The Always Putting You Down Vamp: These are usually family members or someone close to you. These people are unhappy with their lives so they put you down to feel better about themselves. They will bring up every mistake they think you made to bring you down. They will compare you to others and how others are doing so much better than you. I handle these people by telling them I know what you are doing. I then point out exactly what they are doing and tell them it doesn’t work with me.
I am sure there are any other energy vamps. I just wanted to point out a few. The way to deal with energy vamps is to not give them what they want. Your energy and attention. Pointing out the behavior and the truth will take the wind out of their sails. They won’t enjoy it anymore if you are onto what they are doing. You will no longer seem like easy prey and they will move on. By telling people the truth about their behavior and that you will not tolerate it is how you set up boundaries. These boundaries tell people how they are and are not allowed to treat you. Healthy boundaries are important in relationships. If you don’t have them your relationships will stay unbalanced. Balance is harmony. Boundaries will lead you to a peaceful, harmonious and balanced life with healthy relationships.
Love and Light,
My name is Dawn Bailey. I am a magnetic energy worker, lightworker, shaman. My mission is to assist all life on beautiful Gaia ascend. You can find me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, YouTube. and Google+. You can email me at: firstname.lastname@example.org